Picking Your Battles: How To Know Which Words Are Better Left Unsaid | Author: Alex Daniels

Every relationship has its ups and downs, but how you handle these disagreements may be the defining moments that will ultimately determine your happiness and that of your partner. Instead of arguing over every little thing, learning which debates are worth it and which are not will help to keep your love intact.

When you spend a lot of time with someone, such as a mate, there will undoubtedly be disagreements. Minor arguments may involve where to eat dinner, what to watch on television, household habits, which movie to see or what to do this weekend. More often than not, these issues are better left to compromise rather than a shouting match. Alternating decisions will help to ensure that both you and your partner will get to enjoy your favorite things. For instance, you may get to choose tonight’s movie and your spouse can choose the next.

Both parties in a relationship need to maintain their own lives, which is why it’s perfectly normal to enjoy doing things together and still spending some time apart. Perhaps she wants a day of pampering or shopping with her best girlfriends and he prefers poker night with the guys or a weekend trip to a sporting event. Having this time apart is important and should never be the subject of a serious disagreement unless it constantly interferes with your time together as a couple.

If you should find yourself in a heated situation, avoid the temptation to blurt out the first thing that comes to your mind. If you do, remorse will inevitably follow. Rather than saying something that you may later regret, take a few minutes to cool off before returning to the conversation. Leave the room or the area where your mate is and spend several minutes alone. This will give both of you the chance to think about what needs to be said and how best to explain it in a rational way. Choosing your words and when to use them in a relationship is essential to working through your problems as opposed to creating new ones. When you resolve one issue completely, it is also less likely to be verbally tossed into the next argument.

In some cases, you and your spouse may find yourselves at an impasse. If this occurs, simply agree to disagree and try to move forward unless the argument involves infidelity, dishonesty or an otherwise potentially unforgivable act that may require couple’s counseling or a complete reevaluation of the relationship. In some cases, financial issues can also be a real problem. Because money is the number one reason that most couples fight, it is not something that should be ignored or overlooked when it comes to spending habits and/or budgets. In every case, it is better to discuss and resolve the issue rather than allowing it to fester without taking action to correct the problem.

About the Author:

Alex is a wedding consultant for an online gift shop specializing in bridal party gifts. Alex is living the married life and loving it.

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